I'm one of those people who thinks way to much. Surely if you've read this blog before, you know this. But, I've had this one thought banging around my brain for awhile. Perhaps, its a guilt place holder. You know, when I don't have anything pressing to feel guilty for, it just pops up on the front burner. At any rate, I need some input.
Everyone has turn-ons and turn-offs when it comes to attraction to the opposite sex. Build, hair or eye color, voice, mannerisms, can flip the switch from yeah to ney. Are these preferences really prejudices? Lets really look at this, there are definitely women who will not even consider dating a man shorter then themselves, and many men don't want to date a women taller then them (hahaha). Most of us don't like to think ourselves guided by whats on the surface, but it gets us all to some extent.
So here's my personal issue: I'm only attracted to men of my own race. I think this is often true, but most people aren't wasting time thinking on this. This keeps getting put to me often lately, as my mother has decided me an old maid. I swear every man she sees is a possible mate for me. I don't want to relive the string of odd balls she's found to be good for me, but they are always outside my race. If I was attracted to someone I wouldn't blow it off if they were another race, it just hasn't happened. Why is this bugging me? Is it just my nagging need to worry about something or to be hard on myself? Or, am I just a closeted bigot?
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No such thing as a closet bigot. If you are a bigot, then you care not who knows. The basic answer is that it has been drilled into us for generations that your own race is what you are supposed to end up with. If you look at the majority of inter-racial relationships from a geographic standpoint, then you would notice that they are mostly centered around the inner cities, or at least around a large population center such as a city. There is a lesser sence of family and moral upbringing with families in the city. For whatever reason. Where as in the subburbs, it is much more close family and keeping to people like yourselves.
As far as the likes and dislikes of your own turn ons, well....it is nature taking control of you and you are naturally choosing the best mate. Not so romantic but I believe that that is the reason.
My two sence.
Sorry it took so long for me to find your blog.
Dan
glad to hear from you and thanks for checking out my blog. I appreciate your input on my ponderings. your comments were actually quite helpful. thank you.
i hope to see some new post from you soon.
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